“How could you,” indeed. After the election, my feelings were genuinely hurt: by my friends and neighbors. (My family has a long history of trampling my feelings already.) But really, dear “Christian” woman, whose son has spent so much time at my house and vice versa? It’s bad enough that you think so little of women, but you also don’t care about what this tyrannical ass will do to my family? That he could sanction open discrimination against us? Or try to invalidate our marriage and all the rights that go with it? Old friend, who invited us to your house one summer, and with whom I’ve done business. This is okay with you? All of you are okay with this, and then some: the harassment and pain caused to our Hispanic neighbors? Our black neighbors? Our Syrian neighbors? Do you think this is a game?